Getting Frustrated ! [Hair Rant]

Lately my roots have been giving me the hardest time when washing my hair or detangling. I guess this would be consider as "New Growth". I say that because my hair was colored few months ago back to black and unlike when I had my blonde color hair I was able to see the new growth, but since my hair is already black I can't really tell. My roots have been making my hair impossible to wash.

Not only is it my roots though but the length of my hair been acting up to. When I wash my hair with any conditioner it does not seem to soften up my new growth or make my hair manageable. It becomes a struggle to detangle my hair my fingers let alone a wide tooth comb. I then follow up with a deep conditioner but that still won't do much even if I applied it as if it were a relaxer, roots first, it still doesn't help. I honestly don't know what to do. My hair just hasn't be responding well to anything it just becomes rough. I came up with a concoction using herbal essence hello hydration & water which did help soften my roots. That was really the only thing that has helped me. I tried it on the lengths of my hair but that just made my hair feel really coated..

I have tried VO5 conditioners as a cowash which turned out horrible for my hair. I'm guessing because it has protein inside but that stuff made my hair rough. Herbal Essence conditioners are no good they just aren't the same to me. I've tired the Suave Shea Butter & Almond and that didn't turn out well either. Conditioners are supposed to be the best part of washing my hair but none of them are giving me any results in detangling, moisturizing and softening. I'm planning to purchase the Suave humectant that was comparable to Nexxus Humecant since that was a favorite way before Hello Hydration. I have also come across the Mane & Tail Deep Moisturizing conditioner that actually made my hair feel pretty good. But that was the first time using it so when my next wash day comes or if I decide to do a cowash I'm going to try it out again and see how my hair reacts.

Well I guess that's why its called trial and error right... Well hopefully this journey can become exciting and enjoyable like it once was.